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Redefine Your Valentine


Valentine’s Day is a time for lovers and love. Whether you have a special someone or not, why not turn just a bit of that love inward? No one knows the love you need more than you. So why not take some of that unconditional love you give to others and give some to yourself? How amazing would that be?

I’m not talking about spa treatments, retail therapy or a dinner out. Those are wonderful too but today I’m talking about something much more basic. The best part is, it won’t cost you a thing other than a few moments of quiet time.

What I want you to do is love yourself in the little ways that you love others every day. Try this exercise: Imagine the you of 2 years ago and let your present self have a conversation with your past self. I know it sounds a bit crazy but I promise it is therapeutic. I’m sure you recall the beloved Dicken’s story, A Christmas Carol. The main character, Ebenezer Scrooge, is visited by the ghost of Christmas past. Together, they watched a scene from Scrooge’s past. In the end, Scrooge gained wisdom from the experience and created a better future for himself by changing his behavior in the present. I’m suggesting something similar, sans the creepy ghost, and talk to our past selves directly.

Look… no one knows you better than you. Think about the words your heart longs to hear from others. Whatever the specific words are that would make your spirit soar, those are the words you will say to your past self. Invariably, the words will be some expression of love, because it is what we humans crave most. The words your heart would love to hear may range anywhere from parental approval to romantic love to self-empowerment and support.

Get to yourself in a quiet space. Imagine the past you is with you now. Have a conversation with the you of 2 years ago. Think of the past you as your little sister you love more than anything, or as your own child. Give yourself a little pep talk. Tell yourself you are proud of you and why. Tell yourself why you are special. Then wrap your arms around yourself, tell yourself you love you and that you have your back. Then kiss yourself on the arm or shoulder. Do it every day for a week and see how you feel. I’m willing to bet you will feel more light-hearted, in a better mood and generally happier. You’ve done something loving for yourself and it didn’t cost you a penny. I guess the best things in life really are free.

Be Blessed and Live Happier,


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